How Long Should Sex Really Last?

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According to 2005 Society for Sex Therapy and Research, sex should last three to seven minutes. I wish you guys could see the look on my face right now. Three to seven freaking minutes? That’s how long sex should last? I’m going to give them a pass since that study was done in 2005. It’s 2020. Let me dig a litte deeper on something more recent because this can’t be accurate.

Ok. Found something more recent. Most studies in this category are based on intravaginal ejaculatory latency time. Also known as (IELT). This is referring to the time it takes a person with a penis to ejaculate during vaginal penetration. So, this isn’t including foreplay. But I wasn’t counting foreplay in those minutes either. Were you?

Now experts are saying it depends on how you define sex. Ok. Ok. Depends on how you define sex? Are there several definitions for sex? Because I am confused. Numerous individuals consider the end of sex to be once all parties have climaxed. Climax doesn’t “end” sex in my opinion. Climax can be achieved through touching I.E “fingering”, hand job or oral sex. So, if I get off before we even make it to the “big show” then we are done? Where is your stamina at? That was just foreplay. When I ask how long should sex last, I’m asking how long should sex last once you stick your penis into a vagina and you ejaculate for the first time? I do not care if you can go rounds. I’m worried about that first nut. Dudes favorite line is “Let me get this first nut out the way.” Get out of here. Go do some push-ups or something. Your testosterone levels are low.

A study was done that involved 500 couples timing themselves having sex over a four-week time period using a stopwatch. With science there is always going to be discrepancies. I’m sure it was awkward for the people in this study to hit a stopwatch while having a penis inserted into you, or while you are doing the inserting. But hey its science and we are trying to be as accurate as we can be.

So; what did the researchers find you ask. The average time for each couple ranged from 33 seconds to 44 minutes! That is such a huge time gap! 33 seconds to 44 minutes! At 33 seconds, I’m irritated and pissed. And at 44 minutes, I’m like damn when are we going to be done? Is my vagina that trash? I’m tired sir. But the average median across all of the couples was 5.4 minutes each time they did it. I guess the 2005 research is still accurate today. LOL.

Researchers are saying that the average attention span is down from 12 seconds to 8 seconds. I feel super played. I know my attention span is greater than this. But I’m bringing this up because when sex is drawn out and too long your mind does start to wander off. And you start thinking about things that have nothing to do with what you are currently doing. Ex. “I wonder where that black shirt is, I bought the other day?” And then at this point it’s like you aren’t even focused and your big O for sure isn’t going to “cum”. So, it’s like what’s the point? Abort mission. I’m over it.

Nurse Lew conclusion: Sex should definitely last longer than 33 seconds. And on the other hand, it should not take you 44 minutes either. The median outcome from the research was 5.4 minutes. Sounds about right, I guess. But it definitely shouldn’t take you less than 5 minutes to have your first ejaculation. But this is all just my opinion. Who am I? Remember no sex before marriage kids. Hopefully your husband has some stamina. 🙂


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