Do men just wake up one day and say, “you know, I feel like cheating on my spouse today.”? One of the biggest myths in relationships is women think because their man cheated that something is wrong with them. What did I do wrong? Was I not a good wife? Was I not a good girlfriend? Did I not give him enough attention? Did I not treat him like a king? Baby girl, you did nothing wrong. If he wanted to cheat, he was going to cheat regardless. You could have been having sex with him every day. If he’s a cheater and not disciplined enough to be dedicated to you he’s going to cheat, point blank period. 

Here are some statements I came across of men “justifying” why they cheat. This is hilarious. One man said “It’s a mans biological imperative to have sex with as many women as he can. Why should I be any different?” Sir? Why should you be any different? Maybe because you are in a relationship. Why are you in a relationship in the first place if the motto is to have sex with as many women as you can? It gets better y’all. Another man stated, “If I got enough (or better) sex at home, I wouldn’t need to cheat.” Wow! Are we voicing this issue with your wife? Are you telling her that you need more sex and she still isn’t giving it to you? Lastly a guy said “Every man wants to have sex with other women. And when the opportunity arises, he takes it.” Just like that. No self-discipline at all. The opportunity is there, so you take. But your wife is sitting at home. Wow just wow. 

Cheating is selfish. It’s honestly a selfish act. I’m cheating because my girlfriend isn’t doing this or that, or my wife isn’t doing this or that. How old are we? Can we communicate with our partner? Have you let her know that it’s a serious problem? And we need to fix something because I’m having the urge to cheat? Of course, you didn’t communicate that with her. You just selfishly went out and cheated. Now you are bringing all of that negative energy back home to your wife that you endured while cheating. But that’s a whole different topic. I’ll get into energy transfers during sex on another blog so stay tuned. But back on topic.  

At the end of the day there is no justifying cheating. If you want to cheat, then get out of your relationship. I honestly believe men that cheat; cheat because they can. The grass looks greener on the other side and they want to test it out. You are cheating because you aren’t pleased with what’s at home but aren’t too sure if something better is out there. So, your spouse is your security blanket. “Just in case I don’t find anything out there at least I have my wife at home.” You’re cheating because it’s exciting to sneak around. Your adrenaline is rushing. You are scared you are going to get caught. And that first time you actually get away with it, it makes you crave more. And then boom you’ve had sex with multiple women outside of your relationship. Communication is key people. Don’t be a coward and result to cheating. Make things exciting at home. Tell your wife or girlfriend to go put some wigs on or something and pretend to be somebody else. Keep him on his toes. There are faithful men out there in this world ladies. Don’t settle for the cheating bastards. Know your worth. You are worthy queen.