Woke up one Saturday morning and hopped on the clubhouse app. B.Simone and an Expert Relationship guru named Spicy made a room. If you don’t know anything about the clubhouse app, it’s something like a chatroom app and people make rooms and you can join in to listen and sometimes even speak on topics as well. Well the room they had this Saturday morning was titled “I’ve manifested everything I want in my life except for a man!”. The title of the chatroom was eye catching and I immediately click on the room to listen. The relationship expert brought up an amazing point that there are different types of intimacy not just physical. And are these different types of intimacys being fulfilled for you by your partner or vice versa? Honestly I learned a thing or two, let’s get into these 5 different types of intimacy.
The first type of intimacy we are going to chat about is Emotional. Emotional intimacy, it means exactly like it sounds. To emotionally be present for your partner. Active listening, nodding and maintaining eye contact while your partner is speaking to you. Resisting the urge to turn the conversation towards yourself. Express gratitude for the little things, such as “I love you” or “Thank you for making dinner tonight, it was amazing”. Indulge in each other’s passions, try something new together. And get out of the house! Change of scenery does something positive for the relationship it’s like endorphins run through your body while you are out and about with your partner.
Now for this next one, Intellectual. Intellectual Intimacy psychologists describe this as the coming together of two people on such a level of comfort that they feel no hesitation in sharing their thoughts and ideas, even when their opinions are divergent. The extent to which a couple can stimulate each other cerebrally and connect on an intellectual level. They know each other from the inside much deeper than anyone else does. You can tell if something is weighing on your partner’s mind, but they’re not talking about it, and make them feel comfortable enough to let their guard down and speak.
This one is an important one because we are spiritual beings. Spiritual Intimacy brings you, your spouse and God all closer together. As the bible states in Ephesians 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh”. Pray together. You know what they say a couple that prays together stays together. 🙂
Recreational Intimacy is being active together. Take a walk together, go on a hike, go to the movies, go out to dinner, go to the gym together. Do something with your spouse that allows you to actively spend time with them. Once again it’s all about the endorphins that get to running in your body and put you and your partner in a positive space.
And last but certainly not least Physical intimacy. Physical intimacy is described as a loving touch. Holding hands, a hug, a kiss, or even cuddling. We as humans are designed to want to be touched. Touch can communicate acceptance, love and closeness that only the two of you have. And of course, sex. But no sex until you are married people! I can’t stress that enough LOL. I love y’all and I hope you guys enjoyed todays blog and go practice these different types of intimacy with your partner.