As most people may already know there is an obvious orgasm gap between men and women.  Straight men orgasm at a higher rate during intercourse coming in at a whopping 95%. While straight women are coming in at only 65%. That’s a 30% difference! That is completely mind blowing to me. But guess what ladies, there is a 21% orgasm gap between lesbians and straight women. A study found that lesbians are orgasming at a higher rate than straight women coming in at 86%. Followed by bisexual women with a huge drop down to 66%, but still orgasming at a higher rate than straight women. Does this make you want to be a lesbian yet? LOL. Just kidding this article isn’t to persuade you to become a lesbian. I’m just speaking facts. Let’s chat.

Why do heterosexual women orgasm less than any other demographic when having sex? According to researchers “Women are more likely to orgasm if their last sexual encounter included deep kissing, manual genital stimulation (FYI lesbians love manual genital stimulation) and/or oral sex in addition to vaginal intercourse.” Researchers are saying that lesbian couples have longer lasting sex than heterosexual couples. Lesbians report an average length of their sexual encounters to be somewhere between 30 and 57 minutes. While heterosexual couples average around 15-30 minutes per sexual encounter. Researchers are saying the extended duration of lesbian encounter may provide women with the necessary amount of foreplay that’s missing in many heterosexual sexual encounters. Research also supports that heterosexual women may not expect to have an orgasm, while lesbian couples expect it. Read that again. It’s a mindset people! Since lesbian sexual relationships expect both parties to have an orgasm, they put the time and effort in during foreplay and oral sex to make it happen.

Now, do you need to become a lesbian to orgasm at a high rate? No! That is not what I am saying people. But what I am saying is you can learn a few things from the lesbian community. Focus more on foreplay, take your time with sex. Enjoy the foreplay leading up to intercourse. Relax. Orgasms are mental, they start in the brain. Think orgasm when it’s time to have sex. Praise your partner for what they do in the bedroom. Positively critic if you do not like something in the bedroom. Ex “Baby I like it when you do this… or do that.” when your partner is doing something you aren’t too fond of. The most profound way to fix the orgasm gap is to learn your body. Know your body. Know what you like and don’t like in the bedroom so that you can relay this information to your partner. If you don’t know what you like how can you expect someone else to know? And last but certainly not least, don’t be shy. Speak up in the bedroom. Moan. Talk. Let your partner know how you feel. I am just here to help y’all break the orgasm gap because who wants to have sex and not enjoy the beauty of an orgasm. You deserve an orgasm! Don’t settle for anything less. Wishing everybody an orgasm filled sex life! Closing the orgasm gap one day at a time!