I feel like patriarchy takes sexual acts that are profoundly intimate and twists them into this power play. If you just sit and think about deep throating what words come to mind? I know for me submissive, and vulnerability come to mind. Physically getting into a position to deep throat requires vulnerability. It requires you to be submissive. Grant it don’t get me wrong, you can most definitely take charge while down there. I know tons of women who feel that they can make their partner cum quicker with their mouth verses their vagina. Why is that? Do we have more control over our mouths than we do with our own vaginas? Well with this article we are for sure about to take control of our mouths. If you did not know how to before you will know how to after reading this. 

Step 1 Relax deeper than your gag reflex. So as soon as a penis or a dildo hits the back of your throat it activates your gag reflex.

Step 2 Be sure to position the penis or dildo slightly to an angle and downward; so that it is going down your throat and not just hitting the back of your throat. Relax and open your throat. This act of surrender in your throat has profound energetic implications. In the tantric tradition this act can powerfully open your throat chakra.

Step 3 Breathe through your nose and not your mouth. Trying to breathe through your mouth while you have a giant item in it is going to make you feel like you are dying. LOL And how in the world can you give some bomb deep throat in those circumstances? So please, inhale and exhale through the nose so that your body can relax your body needs to be adequately oxygenated.

Step 4 Relax opening your jaw. A tight jaw is not going to let you take control. Relax that jaw and open your mouth.

Step 5 Minimizing teeth. This one is extremely important you do not want to accidently bite a penis that is in your mouth. So, tuck those lips over your teeth. 

Now it’s time to go to town on that penis or dildo! 🙂